two roads diverged . . .
i wish i knew how to post a physical gesture, because what i'm about to explain is done so much better when you can see how passionate and worked up i get about the subject. and the whole reason i get so worked up is because i know how long i've struggled with this subject. and maybe no one else reading this does . . . that may be very likely since i think i can count my readership on one hand. (hi katie!) so my apologies if you get nothing out of this or if this is old news to you or if you think the whole thing is ridiculous. allan and i were thrilled by our ability to put this concept into words.
to boys: we think every single thing you do is either an action to hurt or an action to help. we assume there is deliberate intention in every single choice you make, even as small as saying hi to us in the hallway or standing near us in the drink line. we then analyze the choices you've made and place them in either category.
to girls: we assume that there are only these two options. WE ARE WRONG!!! the phrase, boys will be boys, is an accurate one. they are simply living their lives. they said hi because they remembered to say hi. they happened to walk in the cafeteria they same time we did because they wanted to eat. sure, they are times when they do choose (very purposely) to either help or hurt. but these actions will be obvious and irrefutable!
what i'm saying is that to reach a compromise, boys need to realize that we do this. it may be weird and totally unexplainable to you, but we're just analytical creatures. on behalf of women, i apologize.
girls, let's stop running back to our rooms to discuss the small details of every male encounter. it will be good for us and respectful to them. we assume each step they take is a diverging step in this wood, when really, they're walking straight through it. and if they would decide to help or hurt, but particularly help, then we'll know it. and then, go ahead and giggle all you want. =)
two posts in one hour. whew. i'm all blogged out . . .
to boys: we think every single thing you do is either an action to hurt or an action to help. we assume there is deliberate intention in every single choice you make, even as small as saying hi to us in the hallway or standing near us in the drink line. we then analyze the choices you've made and place them in either category.
to girls: we assume that there are only these two options. WE ARE WRONG!!! the phrase, boys will be boys, is an accurate one. they are simply living their lives. they said hi because they remembered to say hi. they happened to walk in the cafeteria they same time we did because they wanted to eat. sure, they are times when they do choose (very purposely) to either help or hurt. but these actions will be obvious and irrefutable!
what i'm saying is that to reach a compromise, boys need to realize that we do this. it may be weird and totally unexplainable to you, but we're just analytical creatures. on behalf of women, i apologize.
girls, let's stop running back to our rooms to discuss the small details of every male encounter. it will be good for us and respectful to them. we assume each step they take is a diverging step in this wood, when really, they're walking straight through it. and if they would decide to help or hurt, but particularly help, then we'll know it. and then, go ahead and giggle all you want. =)
two posts in one hour. whew. i'm all blogged out . . .
posted by monica at 12:00 AM
2 Comments:
Hey Monica, I remember hearing you say that you had a blog...so I found it. I hope that's okay.
Anyway, I like it...and thanks for the tip about women thinking everything that boys do is intentional. I'll have to start watching myself. Oh, and the post just before this - that was a good one too. I must say, though I'm moving in the direction of a more genuine person, I'm still way on the other side.
Alright, I'll talk to you later.
i'm glad our entire time tonight was anaylzed.
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